Dear Angie,
I want to have a baby. The thing is, I’m 39 and I already have three kids. My youngest is 12. I told my best friend, and she thinks I need my head examined.
My boyfriend, who is several years older than me, has four kids. He doesn’t want to have any more.
I’ve already had my tubes tied, but I want to have it reversed.
How can I get my boyfriend to come around?
Signed, Itching to be a Mommy Again
Dear Don’t Scratch that Itch,
You can’t make him come around. Your boyfriend’s using his head.
The surgery to which you refer is a) not cheap and b) not a guarantee that you will get pregnant. And, let’s face it, at your age, a pregnancy would be high-risk.
Honestly...you have seven kids between the two of you. Enough’s enough, already.
Why do you want to have a baby so badly?
You don’t have to have a baby to prove anything or validate the love you share with your boyfriend.
If none of this gets through, try this: Tonight, when your boyfriend gets home from work, tell him to pack a bag. Take him on a spur-of-the-moment trip to the Poconos or Atlantic City for the weekend. Enjoy yourself and each other.
Then, on the drive home, remind yourself that you’re only able to do things like this because you don’t have an infant at home who requires round-the-clock bottle feedings and diaper changes.
You’re welcome.
Love, Angie
